Coping with Shyness

Coping skills help this woman's shyness
Nearly everyone will experience some degree of social shyness. Some people are naturally more outgoing than others. Many healthy people can have a more introverted disposition than others, and it’s not necessarily a problem for them.

•    People on the outside may misinterpret social shyness, which can be another source of worry for people with social anxiety.
•    Social anxiety is often the result of people dwelling on the potential negative things that could happen during their social engagements.
•    Other people with social anxiety may overestimate the extent to which others appear to be judging their behavior.
•    They may also project their concerns onto other people, so they will see signs of judgment even when there aren’t any there.

  Social Shyness Suggestions

One technique to help overcome some of the milder forms of social shyness is to try to visualize a social engagement from the perspective of the other people there.

•    Most likely, they’re not scrutinizing your every move.
•    They’re there to have fun and spend time with other people.
•    When most people see somewhat commit a social faux pas, they usually quickly dismiss it. The people who do dwell on them are rare, and they’re often unreasonable people in other ways.

The majority of people you will meet on a daily basis are friendly people who are not prone to judgment or quick to anger, so being afraid of them is simply unnecessary.
Of course, it is always easier to convince yourself of something intellectually than it is to convince yourself of something emotionally. Many people with a high degree of social shyness can emerge from a social event completely unscathed, and still feel that it was only because of good luck, as opposed to the essential politeness of everyone around them.

•    Overcoming strong psychological biases is difficult for anyone, particularly when there is a strong degree of fear associated with them.
•    People can be afraid of letting go of their habits, which they can see as protective.
•    They need to be able to convince themselves emotionally that nothing bad is going to happen in social situations, and putting themselves out there more is not as risky as they may feel.

The Shyness Puzzle

For that reason, it is very difficult to solve the problem of social anxiety completely externally. While many people will tell people with social anxiety or shyness that their problem is that they just don’t spend enough time with people and being more outgoing will solve the problem, socializing more often usually won’t be enough for most people.
Social shyness has internal causes for most people.

•    They need to look at the underlying reasons for why they feel social shyness.
•    Therapists, supportive friends, and other individuals can help them, particularly in the beginning.
•    Becoming more comfortable in social situations is a journey, long or short.

However, some people may experience social shyness to the degree that it is disrupting their daily lives. These people should potentially seek professional treatment and try to find techniques to help them work through their emotional problems.


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